Ew, Gross.

It starts small. A bit tongue. Lacerated lip.

Sometimes they begin as they were always meant to be, as an ulcer, not caused by the trauma of my ravenous overeating. (Nicky’s Vietnamese Sandwiches are not meant to be eaten slowly.) Oftentimes, it’s nothing at all. Just the lupus, or the Other Disease. My stress level hits the roof (see: this week) and I get sties in my eyes and sores in my mouth.

At the very beginning they hurt but aren’t too bothersome.

Eventually, though, they become crevices in my mouth, holes in my lip, gashes in my gum. A physical swell—a reaction— occurs with every wayward bite of food. Every spice is realized, everything is felt. I hold my hand over my mouth in pain and my eyes water. I brush my teeth and squeeze my fists against the sink as the toothpaste burns my mouth.

I try salt water to rinse them, mouthwash to cleanse them, baking soda to end them. I feel every breath as it skims through my mouth, down my esophaugus, into my lungs.

I quiet myself. Lay back.

In meetings I don’t say much, never do. I am patient and I speak when spoken to, when it is necessary.

I keep quiet.

They go away, after a week or two of pain and silence and yogurt and baby food. They go away and I forget about them until the Next Time.

And I appreciate the silence, the loss of expectation. I don’t overshare, talk over people. I listen and even though I want to respond, I can’t and don’t. I am still and present and it is good and healthy and nice. To stop only hearing what I want to respond to and instead hear what they are saying.

To listen, learn, reflect.

(And also eat delicious Gerber Dutch Apple baby food. Don't let me babysit if you have it in your house, it WILL be gone.)


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  2. Gen's comment (that she later removed) was about how she has herpes.

    No big deal guys, no big deal.

  3. Indeed. I feared it was a bit crass. I realized I need to censor my comments now, so as not to incite any heated controversy.

  4. Also, as you know, I share your affinity for Dutch Apple baby food. You should get into baby cereal, too. Sprinkle a little sugar on that bad boy and its mushy grainy ricey heaven in your mouth. (I really shouldn't be suggesting this to someone with acute Adult Baby Syndrome.)

  5. The best is Gerber ones with vanilla in them like vanilla apple granola. Maybe I'll buy you and Cece some when you come visit. I hope you feel better!! xo

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